Comments on Living Oprah: Micromanaging our relationships

I'm one of those people who are neat and order fre...

2008-09-04T21:54:00.000-05:00

I'm one of those people who are neat and order freaks. Hence, I have 'categorised' my friends based on what our relationship is. I have a friend, I met at uni, she's my all round friend, we were really close until she moved to another city but we're still really close. We text each other atleast 10 times a day, we tell each other everything, i'll text her just to say that i've seen the cutest shoes or the hottest guy since Clooney.

While, I have other friends who I only have specific things in common with that I would never even think to tell them about the cute shoes or the hot guy.

I wonder how my friends see me. I like to think of myself as a loyal friend who would climb mountains for them, someone they can count on for anything, I'm terribly honest, so I like to think that my friends count me as the no bulls**% one who will cut to the chase.

All in all, if you can count 5 real, genuine friends,regardless of the roles they play in your life, then you're more blessed than most.
T

Maybe they mean friends one should have over the c...

2008-09-03T15:35:00.000-05:00

Maybe they mean friends one should have over the course of one's lifetime because that would make more sense.

And where is the shopping friend? Or the shared life experience friend (the one who got married or had a baby when you did)? Or the old friend you only see at reunions? Or the virtual friend from another country? Or the guy friend (ya gotta have a guy who was just a friend at least once).

I am thinking this is a very limited view of the friendscape.

LO, I think your hubby counts just fine as your tr...

2008-09-03T14:54:00.000-05:00

LO, I think your hubby counts just fine as your traveling friend. Can he be quiet and a little mischievious? If so, you need look no further. I'd like to be your girlfriend who likes to have fun. :>) I don't party all night, but I'll spend 45 minutes going throught the lipgloss section of a drug store, or go out for virgin daiquiris and girl talk. But I bet some of your other friends would do that, too. And besides, I live in California; unless you're as wealthy as O, we can't afford to hang. :>P

Oh, LO, you have me rolling! I'm picturing you and...

2008-09-03T11:37:00.000-05:00

Oh, LO, you have me rolling! I'm picturing you and a friend highlighting your hair together (maybe even adding some pink streaks!), skipping down the street a la Cindy Lauper in the video for "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" and throwing around the word "vajayjay" just for funsies, all the while throwing caution to the wind. Sorry--- I just have the video montage of stock "funny, carefree girl" footage from movies/music videos I've seen, and I can't help but laugh at all the funniness that it inspires (at least inside my brain)! I hope you have a great time with that--I think you need to post your own spoof of the "girls cutting loose" video montage! That would be a riot! :) haha

I think Oprah and the girls may have a bit of a crush on Dr. Oz, thus the blushing and giggling and "vajayjaying" haha. :) Plus, everyone "Whooooos!" when Dr. Oz shows up in street clothes instead of med scrubs on the show. I think Oprah should have a giant slumber party episode, where the girls all get together and call Dr. Oz-and Nate-and then hang up, giggling when they answer!

I can't stop giggling now...This whole thread has made me giddy.

alright, I gotta say I agree in theory with the "f...

2008-09-03T09:20:00.000-05:00

alright, I gotta say I agree in theory with the "five friends" you should have. You should have a friend that supports you with all of her heart (the uplifter), a friend that's fun to travel with, and I think a huband counts,(travel buddy), a friend that tells us in a constructive way to quit wearing that white jump suit or in a not so quiet way to pull our head out of our ass (truth teller), a friend that we can be silly with, not necesssarily party all night with, (just wanna have fun), and a friend that is perhaps outside our usual circle because that's both eye-opening and soul expanding.

I have some friends that fit each of these categories. It's good to evaluate your friendships from time to time to make sure you're not in a toxic relationshop. If I'm not careful I will surround myslef with fren-emies in the blink of an eye because my self-loathing attracts people that feel better about themselves when putting me down.

Just saying, I don't think it's the worts thing I've ever seen....now, the New Kids On The Block's performance on The View...that's ridiculous.

I didn't see this show, but I have to admit that t...

2008-09-03T08:21:00.000-05:00

I didn't see this show, but I have to admit that the impression I get from reading your experience makes me feel that Oprah doesn't have a very high opinion of her audience's intelligence. How could she possibly believe that all women need the same five kinds of friends? How many in the audience are re-evaluating their friendships in this light, and tossing some people overboard to make room for better candidates? I hope not many.

I don't watch Oprah anymore because I became uncomfortable with her new guru pose, but now I see I wasn't aware of the half of it.

Maybe he couldn't explain how acupuncture "works" ...

2008-09-03T02:42:00.000-05:00

Maybe he couldn't explain how acupuncture "works" because it doesn't? I don't know of any studies that show it as being any more effective than placebo.

Similarly, beware Chinese "medicine". It hasn't been through the same trials and quality controls that Western medicine has.

Finally, beware any mention of "we're all made of energy" in a health context. It's a short step to crystals and homeopathy.

Actually I haven't bought the magazine for awhile ...

2008-09-02T22:20:00.000-05:00

Actually I haven't bought the magazine for awhile either! {But probably more recently than I've watched the show.} So I don't have anything to say about this particular issue, however, your comments spark an interest to find out how the issue is a "design for living." Did you subscribe for the year or are you buying it issue by issue?

wandering coyote, yup. weird, huh? jean, i will......

2008-09-02T21:58:00.000-05:00

wandering coyote, yup. weird, huh?

jean, i will...there was so much to say today, i'll do it on a slighly slower day. i'll tell you one thing...the issue is certainly is a design for living. they did all the "work" for us in many aspects of a womans life...we don't have to do anything but follow their rules, if we want. did you have thoughts about it? and...she definitely does the translation thing quite a bit. good call.

best,
LO

Were you planning to blog about the September issu...

2008-09-02T19:19:00.000-05:00

Were you planning to blog about the September issue of Oprah's magazine?

I was surprised today {I tuned in just because of this blog!} at the way Oprah looked at the audience with big eyes as Oz explained how we were made of energy. I don't recall exactly what she said but it was if she said exactly what he said, as if she needed to translate his words for the audience. I haven't watched Oprah for a long time, so maybe this is SOP, but it seemed a little silly, as did the vjayjay talk you already mentioned.

Good God! Five friend every woman should have, eh...

2008-09-02T18:41:00.000-05:00

Good God! Five friend every woman should have, eh? I'm a little insulted by that article and the idea behind it. Talk about labeling people, stereotyping, and not being happy with what you have. And I resent the word "should" coming from Oprah with regards to friends. I would never categorize any of my friends! This is absurd!

Sorry to rant...